Practice Confession & Repentance… Put to Death Hiding Sin & Unrepentance
“To be a Christian is to be a person who is in the process of constantly repenting… Repentance is not just turning away from sin but turning toward Christ in faith.” – Tim Keller
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Once a week, sit together and each answer:
(1) Where did I fall short of Christlikeness toward you this week?
(2) Where did I see God's grace working in me toward you?
Keep it brief – 15-20 minutes total. Pray together after. -
Move beyond vague apologies. Practice naming the specific sin: "I was selfish when I...," "I was harsh when I said...," "I withheld affection because..." Being specific is the difference between confession and deflection.
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Each spouse maintains at least one same-sex trusted friend or mentor to whom they confess ongoing struggles with sin. This is not a threat to the marriage – it is protection for the marriage. Share with your spouse who that person is.
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When a significant sin against your spouse has occurred, don't just apologize in words. Ask: "What would repentance look like in action here?" Agree on a concrete, visible act of changed behavior that demonstrates genuine turning.